Friends...

Things are headed as usual...somethings good, some not so good ( but you still live with them!!), certain things confusing, some that you wish you could complete.Too many things on mind!

JANUARY 2009:
Life was awesome...It was a long weekend thanks to Republic day :-)...(We Indians..ony long for holidays...be it whatever!!!)..7 of us decided to pack our bags and go to Shirdi...5 of us were goin for the first time...And I was going alone with friends for the first time...Dunno my parents din't make a huge fuss and allowed me....Had an amazing time at all moments of the trip be it the journey, the temple queue...Standing in the queue for more than 2.5 hours...I completed all what I had to converse with God in the queue itself....Slight uncomfortable things did crop up post trip and I was the centre of all of those...but P & K did manage to pull me out of it...Thanks :-)
I hope all of us remain as we are ...close buddies..and don't get lost in life as we move on...they are my support group....
Had been to JW Marriott for a seminar with colleagues....Later in the evening we just walked over to PVR to see the crap... Chandni Chowk to China with K & VK...We hardly saw the movie...busy gossiping about all things on earth...had fun!!
Sometimes when I am enjoying so much, I start having pangs in my stomach, that these moments are so special and they will end once you move on in life and we will be just left with memories...

Cut to April 2009:
My pangs were for real..small and big misunderstandings have resulted in rifts between all of us!...I think I went wrong in trusting people. Read a good line "Perfect definition of trust: Trusting a person is giving someone the authority to destroy you completely with the utmost confidence that they won't."
With all this I learnt 2 things to be precise: One, I fail to understand people and second, I should reduce my dependencies on friends for all things - big and small. I really hate situations that cause so much mess in life. I thought the friends that I have are for the world to be jealous of..Why do I go wrong in all decisions?

I will soon forget about all this..but some real close friends have annoyed me a bit!!! Life moves on but...

"If you are thinking about devoting "some" part of your life to solve it, forget about it. You are just gonna waste one."

Anybody there??

Hi all,

Terrified of the terror for the last 3 dayz....But I was only scared..doing nothing...at max, I can say feeling bad about the state of affairs sitting in the bedroom watching news repetition throughout the day!! Wondering why was this to happen there...As usual, I have got no answers....

Last few dayz have not been so good...Most of the times when I come to write on the blog, it's because of this reason that I am not in the best of my moods:(....

One of my very senior colleagues made me realize that I was being shadowed at work...meaning I was not in the limelight, I do things which are relevant but I do not show it off to the world. This is the second time in my work-life that seniors have told me the same thing. I don't know when am I going to improve over this...but yes I am making sincere efforts I believe...small but sincere steps...I don't want to lag behind!!

It happened to be my birthday last week...Nothing very special was planned...and it was a usual day at work..but my boss was generous enough to lemme leave early :-)...But something was badly amiss that day...wonder why...shed so many tears that I had not since long long dayz!

One of my very close friend was able to ready my mind...and she gave me 1000 options as to what could be bothering me..but I was just not ready to speak what i was feeling...She smsed saying.."80% things are not under your control...so stop worrying"...I got all the more wild...I replied saying, "I never wanted a life which was not under my control, atleast not 80%. I will try and reverse this equation of my life for sure!!. But I dunno know how....

A funny thing that happened, (not funny actually embarassing)...birth certificate of my sister is incorrect..and this we realized when somebody else pointed this mistake out to us...that too after 16 years of her birth:)...It was hilarious!!!Although, I have already filed an amendment application now, but it will surely remain with me for a long time!! How can you not read such a important document, the outcome of your existence :) for 16 long years!!! Krazzy....

Planned a surprise for my sister's birthday..though one of his friends leaked the information to her..It turned out to be fun!!..But perosnality-wise she is going to turn out exactly like me...shy,silent, limited friends etc!!...
Tennis and skating...wanna learn them!! Where???...Funny incident:..Called up a skate coach to ask him some info about his training centre...He is asking me..how old is your kid..I said I want to learn not my kid...How old are you ma'm?....25....Sorry we can't teach you!!..What the hell..but why..It's dangerous ma'm..U may hurt urself..Thts ok...I am OK with it...No we are sorry Ma'm!!!...Can't find a weekend tennis coach...
Ciao!!

Just updates!!!

I had been wanting since quite sometime to go to a astrologer..Wanted to know where my stars are headed..Is there any conflict between what I want to do and what the stars want me to do :-)...Here was an oppotunity..there was a Diwali mela organized in our office where things like Fortune with parrot, bangle making, puppet shows and sorts of stalls for entertainment had been put up!!

Of all the things on earth that day, I had to get the parrot decide how my future is going to be!!...That parrot made a total popat out of me. It said all things which I din't want to hear..The thing that it kept repeating was..."Your time has gone for all things that you wanted to do"....Horrible!! But true it was...

Ya, one good thing that I have done is register myself for further studies. Finally I took the plunge. Have been wanting to get my passport done, and have been wandering for a passport agent since ages!! God knows where on earth will I find one. Where are you soul ??:-)

Today morning, seen a girl of almost my age talking to her mom over the phone. She was so completely at ease while talking to her. I think I can't even talk to friend like that. That was a very sweet conversation. I was reading a book but somehow that conversation made me feel something different within me. Can't explain but it was more at my being a very typical introvert and I feel I have worsened over the last year in terms of my communication skills.

Reached office. Business reports had not been updated. A Senior Manager (M*) called me and was just understanding why they had failed to be updated. I gave some gyaan that due to month end, there is lot of load on the server...so...

Then he happened to be a Jain as I am. This is the conversation:

M*: Are you a Shwetambar/Digambar Jain?

Me: (Was thinking..what is the relevance of this conversation with reports not being updated or for that matter at 9'0 clock in the morning) ..Errr....I Errrr.....Shwetambar....(Was still thinking..why this question)

M*: Oh tht's good, Even I am a Shwetambar....Where do you sit? (He sits at other location of our office)

Me: I replied **

M* Will meet you when I come there.

Me: Okie. Thanks Ciao!!!

I was still wondering what was with religion here? Why is religion so important... I agree it's an identity and all tth jazz...but still...But i know for sure, there is a lot of religious bias when interviewers hire people. Although don't know why!! Or may be the marathi manoos stories have gone to people's heart and they just find solace that they are not alone :-)...Ok I don't care much!!

Ciao!!!Bye. Take care!!

Am in a foul mood after coming from an equally boring day at work..(which day isn't boring afterall at office!!).Fought with mom, once again for the same reason.."that we haven't been on a holiday ever since I was a kid". I don't know how rude I was, but yes I was mad and she did cry... But I really care less, because I know I am not too demanding. Dad, once again, his usual self--"Let's go to our hometown, that's the best place". This made me all the more mad!

Beauty matters

Hi,

Had written this post long back..posting it now!
Is being beautiful an advantage? I am sure the answer to this question has each one of us "nodding" our heads in the "negative". I say nodding in the -ve, bcoz each one of us wants to say No but we know in our hearts that the answer is Yes....an article in the TOI a few weeks back made me think. More often than not beautiful = fair and fair = smart. Right from childhood, tiny girls feel that the other child is getting all the goodies bcoz she has the prettiest face and the prettiest dress :-(...and in the teens..all guys seem 2 vie for ur best frnd's attention.:-(...nd then when u get matured...u take it in ur stride and say its luck...lolz....

And why on earth do people think that fair = smart= pleasing personality? And people implies all - interviewers, matrimonial purposes...any tom dick and harry! Its OK as long as you yourself are not self-conscious about your looks, but when you become conscious of yourself, it gets irritating and sometimes disheartening.

And right from childhood, when because of your skin shade you are made to believe whether or not you are beautiful, that outlook and the low self-esteem & lack of confidence is not easy to break away with.
But I guess, God wanted people to be such and he had his own plans...so let be it!! No cribbing over this!! Be comfortable and confident. Everything will be OK.

Ciao!!!

Feeling Tanks

Hi...

2nd post in a day!!!..Was on leave today...so empty mind is a devil's workshop!

Some 5 odd years back, we had a presentation in class regarding some OB topic...something on EQ..I remember faintly that the classmate was talking about "Feeling tanks in a human being". Every feeling that arises in our mind or heart has a tank (in literal sense a "level")associated with it..be it love, friendship, care, belongingnessetc.

If a person is goin overboard with any of these emotions, it simply implies that his love/friendship tank is overflowing which could be damaging to the relationship...We all know expressing one's feelings is the right thing, but hold on guys...sometimes it may lead to "The End". A simple example could be like not giving individual space in a relationship or extreme possessivness...So, we should try and balance out our feelings to avoid them overflowing and maintaing our relationship.

But at most times in life our tanks are overflowing with respect to atleast one individual be it your best friend, your partner, siblings etc..Its happened with me in the past and the relationships have gone a bit hay-wire with uncomfortable situations arising.

I was able to sense a similar feeling with one of my very dear friend whom I met just a few months back in life and was really glad to meet her. I din't want to damage this relationship, so I just left our friendship the way it is without seeking any clarifications, reasoning , setting any expectations etc...Maybe with time, it will all be fine!!!And maybe all these feelings within me are just a figment of my imagination, reason being the overflowing tanks!. Hope the spilling from my tanks does not affect the relation.

Ciao ppl!!!

Ciao life!!!

Unusual

Hi all,
Some people find it unusual that:
1. I don't find it wierd to go shopping alone. Believe me, it's better than asking other's opinions for each thing that you choose.
2. I don't find it unusual to have food on the roadside stalls or in a restaurant alone. I am hungry, so who cares!
3. I don't even mind watching movies alone!! Everybody has got committments...I am the only one who's free for 3 hours..so let be it!
4. I am sure I would never mind travelling long distances alone too for a break. Nobody needs a break, but I surely do.

Deepika : Meaning!!

What Deepika Means

You are balanced, orderly, and organized. You like your ducks in a row. You are powerful and competent, especially in the workplace. People can see you as stubborn and headstrong. You definitely have a dominant personality. You are friendly, charming, and warm. You get along with almost everyone. You work hard not to rock the boat. Your easy going attitude brings people together. At times, you can be a little flaky and irresponsible. But for the important things, you pull it together. You are influential and persuasive. You tend to have a lot of power over people. Generally, you use your powers for good. You excel at solving other people's problems. Occasionally, you do get a little selfish and persuade people to do things that are only in your interest. You tend to be pretty tightly wound. It's easy to get you excited... which can be a good or bad thing. You have a lot of enthusiasm, but it fades rather quickly. You don't stick with any one thing for very long. You have the drive to accomplish a lot in a short amount of time. Your biggest problem is making sure you finish the projects you start. You are a seeker of knowledge, and you have learned many things in your life. You are also a keeper of knowledge - meaning you don't spill secrets or spread gossip. People sometimes think you're snobby or aloof, but you're just too deep in thought to pay attention to them. You are usually the best at everything ... you strive for perfection. You are confident, authoritative, and aggressive. You have the classic "Type A" personality.

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