Just updates!!!

I had been wanting since quite sometime to go to a astrologer..Wanted to know where my stars are headed..Is there any conflict between what I want to do and what the stars want me to do :-)...Here was an oppotunity..there was a Diwali mela organized in our office where things like Fortune with parrot, bangle making, puppet shows and sorts of stalls for entertainment had been put up!!

Of all the things on earth that day, I had to get the parrot decide how my future is going to be!!...That parrot made a total popat out of me. It said all things which I din't want to hear..The thing that it kept repeating was..."Your time has gone for all things that you wanted to do"....Horrible!! But true it was...

Ya, one good thing that I have done is register myself for further studies. Finally I took the plunge. Have been wanting to get my passport done, and have been wandering for a passport agent since ages!! God knows where on earth will I find one. Where are you soul ??:-)

Today morning, seen a girl of almost my age talking to her mom over the phone. She was so completely at ease while talking to her. I think I can't even talk to friend like that. That was a very sweet conversation. I was reading a book but somehow that conversation made me feel something different within me. Can't explain but it was more at my being a very typical introvert and I feel I have worsened over the last year in terms of my communication skills.

Reached office. Business reports had not been updated. A Senior Manager (M*) called me and was just understanding why they had failed to be updated. I gave some gyaan that due to month end, there is lot of load on the server...so...

Then he happened to be a Jain as I am. This is the conversation:

M*: Are you a Shwetambar/Digambar Jain?

Me: (Was thinking..what is the relevance of this conversation with reports not being updated or for that matter at 9'0 clock in the morning) ..Errr....I Errrr.....Shwetambar....(Was still thinking..why this question)

M*: Oh tht's good, Even I am a Shwetambar....Where do you sit? (He sits at other location of our office)

Me: I replied **

M* Will meet you when I come there.

Me: Okie. Thanks Ciao!!!

I was still wondering what was with religion here? Why is religion so important... I agree it's an identity and all tth jazz...but still...But i know for sure, there is a lot of religious bias when interviewers hire people. Although don't know why!! Or may be the marathi manoos stories have gone to people's heart and they just find solace that they are not alone :-)...Ok I don't care much!!

Ciao!!!Bye. Take care!!

Am in a foul mood after coming from an equally boring day at work..(which day isn't boring afterall at office!!).Fought with mom, once again for the same reason.."that we haven't been on a holiday ever since I was a kid". I don't know how rude I was, but yes I was mad and she did cry... But I really care less, because I know I am not too demanding. Dad, once again, his usual self--"Let's go to our hometown, that's the best place". This made me all the more mad!

Beauty matters

Hi,

Had written this post long back..posting it now!
Is being beautiful an advantage? I am sure the answer to this question has each one of us "nodding" our heads in the "negative". I say nodding in the -ve, bcoz each one of us wants to say No but we know in our hearts that the answer is Yes....an article in the TOI a few weeks back made me think. More often than not beautiful = fair and fair = smart. Right from childhood, tiny girls feel that the other child is getting all the goodies bcoz she has the prettiest face and the prettiest dress :-(...and in the teens..all guys seem 2 vie for ur best frnd's attention.:-(...nd then when u get matured...u take it in ur stride and say its luck...lolz....

And why on earth do people think that fair = smart= pleasing personality? And people implies all - interviewers, matrimonial purposes...any tom dick and harry! Its OK as long as you yourself are not self-conscious about your looks, but when you become conscious of yourself, it gets irritating and sometimes disheartening.

And right from childhood, when because of your skin shade you are made to believe whether or not you are beautiful, that outlook and the low self-esteem & lack of confidence is not easy to break away with.
But I guess, God wanted people to be such and he had his own plans...so let be it!! No cribbing over this!! Be comfortable and confident. Everything will be OK.

Ciao!!!

Feeling Tanks

Hi...

2nd post in a day!!!..Was on leave today...so empty mind is a devil's workshop!

Some 5 odd years back, we had a presentation in class regarding some OB topic...something on EQ..I remember faintly that the classmate was talking about "Feeling tanks in a human being". Every feeling that arises in our mind or heart has a tank (in literal sense a "level")associated with it..be it love, friendship, care, belongingnessetc.

If a person is goin overboard with any of these emotions, it simply implies that his love/friendship tank is overflowing which could be damaging to the relationship...We all know expressing one's feelings is the right thing, but hold on guys...sometimes it may lead to "The End". A simple example could be like not giving individual space in a relationship or extreme possessivness...So, we should try and balance out our feelings to avoid them overflowing and maintaing our relationship.

But at most times in life our tanks are overflowing with respect to atleast one individual be it your best friend, your partner, siblings etc..Its happened with me in the past and the relationships have gone a bit hay-wire with uncomfortable situations arising.

I was able to sense a similar feeling with one of my very dear friend whom I met just a few months back in life and was really glad to meet her. I din't want to damage this relationship, so I just left our friendship the way it is without seeking any clarifications, reasoning , setting any expectations etc...Maybe with time, it will all be fine!!!And maybe all these feelings within me are just a figment of my imagination, reason being the overflowing tanks!. Hope the spilling from my tanks does not affect the relation.

Ciao ppl!!!

Ciao life!!!

Unusual

Hi all,
Some people find it unusual that:
1. I don't find it wierd to go shopping alone. Believe me, it's better than asking other's opinions for each thing that you choose.
2. I don't find it unusual to have food on the roadside stalls or in a restaurant alone. I am hungry, so who cares!
3. I don't even mind watching movies alone!! Everybody has got committments...I am the only one who's free for 3 hours..so let be it!
4. I am sure I would never mind travelling long distances alone too for a break. Nobody needs a break, but I surely do.

Deepika : Meaning!!

What Deepika Means

You are balanced, orderly, and organized. You like your ducks in a row. You are powerful and competent, especially in the workplace. People can see you as stubborn and headstrong. You definitely have a dominant personality. You are friendly, charming, and warm. You get along with almost everyone. You work hard not to rock the boat. Your easy going attitude brings people together. At times, you can be a little flaky and irresponsible. But for the important things, you pull it together. You are influential and persuasive. You tend to have a lot of power over people. Generally, you use your powers for good. You excel at solving other people's problems. Occasionally, you do get a little selfish and persuade people to do things that are only in your interest. You tend to be pretty tightly wound. It's easy to get you excited... which can be a good or bad thing. You have a lot of enthusiasm, but it fades rather quickly. You don't stick with any one thing for very long. You have the drive to accomplish a lot in a short amount of time. Your biggest problem is making sure you finish the projects you start. You are a seeker of knowledge, and you have learned many things in your life. You are also a keeper of knowledge - meaning you don't spill secrets or spread gossip. People sometimes think you're snobby or aloof, but you're just too deep in thought to pay attention to them. You are usually the best at everything ... you strive for perfection. You are confident, authoritative, and aggressive. You have the classic "Type A" personality.

What's" Your Name's Hidden Meaning?

Controversy

Hi all!!!

A doc has been taking my case history for some Fair & lovely treatment...(yeah!! some skin treatment)...and a case history spans from like what I like to eat upto what I think and how I think!!! And she has been repeatedly saying that there is a controversy around my life.
My mum's description of me as an individual and my essay on "Myself" to her has been very contrasting.

She was meaning to say, "You are acting as a soldier, just guarding and protecting your life too much to even let others take a glimpse of it".

Been to Jim Corbett National Park for an Offsite. After a long period of time, I was really smiling!. It was just great fun. Yeah as usual, mixing around with people was a problem. But then people whom I thought were just colleagues whom I did know for 10 months turned out to be great pals!! Loved the four days and am sure they would be among the few remembrable dayz that I have actually lived!!

Saw Rock on. Great movie. Farhan and Purab Kohli were cute! The movie as usual had an horrible impact on me. Because like the band Magik and its members, I don't have any passion in life that can soothe my life like no other thing in life can do. Why don't I have something that I can cling to? Can I develop one now or is it too late? Question remains unanswered?

Completed a book called "Bombay Rains, Bombay Girls". When I started the book, it seemed like some teenage read. But as the pages progressed, it was a very nice and light read. Life of a few medical students. A line that has clicked something in me from the book, "Hope is a double-edged sword, it brings anxiety & peace, fear & courage and Confidence & hesitation". Guess it is really true!

Planning in a holiday during the winters. Hope things work out. Looking out for some great company. Cant seem to find. Wanted to go to ladkah, but the routes are closes during winters. So for now, would do with some other northern states.

Another week begins tomorrow. As usual getting jittery!

Ciao ppl!!!Ciao Life!!!

Unanswered.

Happy Friendship Day to all of you!!
Life is really getting uncertain and unpredictable day by day....What may happen the next moment I breathe is not known...Deaths, accidents, diseases, close friends about to change their orkut status to committed and its sounding over even before it's about to begin, broken marriages, compromising marriages, corporate politics...its all around me now.
A pal asked me once do we deserve pain in life or should there be a state of constant bliss...?
Another pal asked me, why do we always have to compromise and adjust? Why don't others adjust to us atleast a few times in life?
Another question, in a typical arranged marriage matrimonial setting interview: What is the level of committment that can be expected of you in family?
Don't have answers to all of the above...........
Another yorker from somebody really inseparable: "She never voices her feelings. I always wonder what's on her mind!!!"For a change, I had a reply ready.."As if you ever cared to understand my silence...."
So many people have such ideal life...I wonder what it takes to reach there?...I think all the above answer my question...God knows why I don't do what I should...I think there is a differnce between what I am doing and what I wish to ....Is there? I am not feeling sorry for myself..feeling horrible about just letting 25 years pass by.....
On this friendship day...getting nostalgic of all the memories of school friends and a few of my close friends...nobody is around ...everything is drifting apart.....It had to happen someday and it has....Let go of it all....Have been clutching to all of it since long..........