Siblings

What a unique way of God to add beauty to an individuals life!! Siblings - Two or more people are just bound together by something which is very inseparable (the mother who gave birth to both of them) yet very distinct (they have their own individualistic life), a relation which is very casual yet very special at the same time. Sisters or brothers often take each other for granted, (here "taking for granted" does not have a negative connotation). This thing called "taken for granted" is negative only in the in ital stages of relationship when there is extreme love, passion and jealousy , when u want the supreme position in the other person's heart; but over the years when u just become comfortable with the person, this thing called "taken for granted" acquires a new meaning---it becomes understanding, respect for each other and giving appropriate space. (Guys, hang on, this are not my thoughts, these are SRK's thoughts in today's Bombay Times and I kind of agreed with it and applied it to this topic.)

I was just wondering what happens if the siblings don't get along well with each other. I mean normal fights are something which no normal sisters/brothers can live without but what if it's beyond that ? It could be anything parental pressure (meaning a kind of subtle favouritism by the parents which is apparent only to the eyes of the person getting affected) agreed for mothers all five fingers are equal......but i have observed certain exceptions and so just putting it down here, or it could be societal pressure or just lack of mental compatibility between them.

Take a case----If the eldest daughter/son amongst all of them (assume there are 3 or more than that)has never strived to make this relationship beautiful with the younger one for whatever reasons (be it any reason as mentioned above parental pressure and all that....)....."Making beautiful" has got no meaning - it is all small - small things that count ---sharing deep secrets, going 4 a movie , shopping, trying to save ur skin in case of any trouble...it cud be nething...if all these thoughts are absent in the eldest & the younger one, how does the younger one pass it on to the youngest one?

Does he/she pass it on with the same lack of concern kind of thoughts......not caring whether he/she has had food, not caring if there's ne problem at school/college/work etc, just thinking that History repeats itself and should behave as the elder one has done with him/her or the middle one should make efforts to try and make the relation as superb as it can be......I think the younger one will work hard to see that the youngest one never feels similar to what he/she has felt...

Now if I add one more angle to this already complicated situation, assume that the youngest child is quite a loner and generally keeps to his/her own self except in front of close friends and now the middle child has been determined from his/her self experience that it doesn't feel good to have a elder one who seems not caring, so let's try and be a little protective, a little caring and have fun as some normal sisters/bros. do have. The problem arises...the younger one sees it as a breach of privacy or a lot of interference.....

All this may continue for a life time with neither the eldest one , neither the youngest one realizing the harm on the mind of the middle one...He/she may feel out of context in this life...may start feeling what kind of life is this when the blood relations are not turning out OK....is there problem with me ? Can't I try and be a good sister/brother? Why can't our relationship be as beautiful, be as normal, be as pure, be like real real pals.....If i can't be a good sibling, how can I be a good friend, good daughter or a good partner....If my own siblings can't trust me. how will outsiders confide in me? And believe me this sows the seeds of failure in one's personal life......

I don't think most of you'll will be able 2 understand this post (not because of my writing skills!!!!!)but because this is again a very exceptional situation which hardly people come across....but I have seen and witnessed it and believe me it's a very very normal house hold...like yours and mine...it's nothing different except of course the missing chatters of the siblings!!!!!!!!!!And how I wish to change all of it there....but somethings are just beyond us........

Will post in later....bbye